maybe it’s me, but…

Do you ever realise – God alone only knows how long after the fact – that you’ve been unfollowed and wonder what you’ve done to piss someone – assuming you even knew who it was in the first place – off?

This time??

Then you think “well, I’ve done quite a lot of things recently” and have no idea which one it could actually be.

Eventually… because you’re such a spring chicken… at heart, it hits you that high school was a long fucking time ago and you didn’t give a shit what people thought of you then so why is this bothering you now.

Which is when you come to understand the whole social media thing is a vast conspiracy by the PTB, who are trying to make everyone believe the only way to survive in this world is via a popularity contest of who has the most friends/followers/whatevers.

And that makes you remember why you decided not to follow people back in the first place because it was all too hard and doing your head in.


I didn’t think it was only me.

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41 Responses to maybe it’s me, but…

  1. Jason says:

    ~nods and smiles although completely lost~

  2. Jenre says:

    Oh bloody hell you're reading my mind! I lost a follower from my blog yesterday and the very same thoughts ran through my mind:

    1. What did I do to piss that person off?
    2. Perhaps I was just being too boring.
    3. Maybe they've just had a cull of sites they don't visit very often.
    4. Why do I care about this?


    Then I realise that I've regressed back to my high school years. A place I promised I would never look back on once I'd kicked the dirt from my shoes.

    Have now returned to my usual sanguine nature except for the little wince every time I see my follower number on blogger :).

  3. Huh. When did you crawl into my head? I didn't notice a secret hatch the last time I washed my hair….

  4. Kassa says:

    It's not about quantity, it's about quality.

    'nuff said.

  5. ahh…yeah. What you said. 🙂

  6. Mariana says:

    Funny story, but true: I noticed I wasn't “friend” with someone in Facebook…. kept bothering me why, she wasn't my “friend”, I even asked my ex about it. Then I remembered I unfriended her O_o I'm stupid like that sometimes.

    I think everyone goes through it.

  7. KB/KT Grant says:

    Or you wonder why certain people don't follow you on Twitter and you follow them. Or when you tweet them, they don't tweet you back.

    I noticed you don't tweet me sometimes SCK when I ask for cookies. Are you trying to tell me something?

  8. D.L. says:

    I feel that way about FB, but then again maybe I shouldn't since I'm always unfriending people myself. Maybe it ends up bothering me because the only people I leave on my friends list are people I actually consider my friends (or like to spy on).

    I feel shallow admitting this, but I did give a shit about what people thought of me in high school! Those wounds are still rather fresh for me though…

  9. Eyre says:

    What Jenre said on her list.

    You know what really gets me? The people who are still following but who never comment. They still comment on other people's blogs, etc. So I have to wonder what it is I did to tick them off. I don't expect people to comment on everything, but when somebody goes from commenting all the time to never commenting and is still commenting elsewhere, I have to think he/she has a problem with me.

    I just want to be liked!

  10. Tracy says:

    Word. I don't really pay much attention to those kinds of things normally but it has to make me wonder where the hell I fucked up. lol Oh well. I don't follow people on blogs because I don't want to feel guilty when my list gets too full or when my google reader explodes so that saves me from making anyone feel bad. lol

    I still love and follow you. 🙂

  11. *Nods, lower lip trembles*

  12. Lori says:

    I pretty much know why people leave me, or at least I have a good idea. I'm not shy about expressing my political views anywhere. My personal blog, twitter, FB, wherever. So yeah, I just assume that's the reason. And guess what? I really don't give a flying fuck.

  13. LOL! This cracks me up because the other day I commented on another authors blog and when I didn't get a response I started to over think it. LOL

  14. Ingrid says:

    Just when I was so proud that I got two followers on my tumblr you write posts like this *sigh*.
    (btw I do not know those people, never looked at their tumblr's so that made me wonder how they came to follow me.)

    Dunno why they did it Kris, but I would not worry. Unless it is someone you know very well. Or thought you knew very well.

  15. I feel EXACTLY the same! I lose followers here and there and worry about it for a day or two. Then I realize everything you said!

  16. Kris says:

    Jase: Hey! That made perfect sense… when I wrote it yesterday. 😛

    Jen: Maybe it was the same person ganging up on us! We should virtually stand on the other side of the school yard giving them the evuls and whispering behind our hands.

    You know… if we could be arsed and stuff.

    Miranda: Just think of this as an episode of 'Being Sweet Vernal Zephyr'. 😉

    Kassa: Good point. XD

  17. Kris says:

    FV: I knew you would totes agree with me. 😉

    Mariana: *snort* I think everyone goes through it too. It's kinda weird that it's not talked about more though. Or maybe it is and it's just one of a number of things that I'm oblivious too. LOL.

    KBC: You are a cookie monster who demands more even when I post heaps. Yes, I'm telling you something. 😉

    DL: “I feel shallow admitting this, but I did give a shit about what people thought of me in high school!”

    Not shallow at all! I wasn't you're typical teen, whichis what the Mumma will tell you if she reads this. LOL.

    “Those wounds are still rather fresh for me though…”

    Are you implying that I'm old??


  18. Kris says:

    Eyre: “The people who are still following but who never comment.”

    I think about this very occasionally and then just shrug it off, especially considering the fact that I'm one of the slackarsest commentators on the face of the planet. 🙂

    Tracy: “I still love and follow you. :)”

    Like you have any choice. 😛

    Wren: Awww. Don't be sad. *cuddles*

    Lori: “I'm not shy about expressing my political views anywhere.”

    Yeah, but I'm so nice and pleasant and stuff. Never contentious, always say the 'right' thing. People should fucking love me goddammit!

  19. Tam says:

    Umm. I got a bit lost there, perhaps I should just nod and smile along with Jason.

    I can't believe you guys actually know how many followers you have. LOL I am CLUELESS. I have no idea (unless I look of course, I'm clueless, not blind) how many followers I have on Facebook, Twitter or any blog. I suppose if I lost 25 I'd notice since I know I have more than that, but I could not tell you if they come or go. I just don't really care. I know someone who cut a bunch of us off on Facebook and until someone commented about it 3 months later I hadn't noticed. LOL If it was to make a point I missed it.

    So ignorance is bliss. Ladidah. And I have unfollowed some people because I don't know them and I don't really care about their comments. Total strangers commenting on stuff is not my thing. I've never unfollowed anyone anywhere because of something they've done. However I know every now and then cleaning out the blog roll or friend list is a good thing, so I don't sweat it.

  20. Chris says:

    I don't pay enough attention to it to have clue when I've gained or lost followers…

  21. Kris says:

    Stephani: “This cracks me up because the other day I commented on another authors blog and when I didn't get a response I started to over think it.”

    This is the one thing that does seriously piss me off. If someone takes the time to read something you've written and has made a comment on your post than have the friggin' courtesy to respond to them. It's just bloody rude. If I've ever done it to someone you have my biggest sorries. It's a huge pet peeve of mine.

    As you may have noticed. 😛

    Ingrid, sorry. *smooshies*

    “Dunno why they did it Kris, but I would not worry. Unless it is someone you know very well. Or thought you knew very well.”

    Actually I'm not sure it was. I thought about checking to see if I would recognise who it might have been, but then I decided that was too much like hard work. LOL.

    Amy: We're all victims of social media! It's a conspiracy I tellz ya!

  22. Tam says:

    Oh Ingrid mentioned Tumblr. I do NOT follow everyone who follows me. My dashboard would explode. I figure they found me through a picture link and like my stuff, that's how I found most of the people I follow. I have no idea who Troyisnaked or Scruffyjizzmonkey are and I'm assuming people who follow me don't know who I am either. It's just pictures so I'm in the big whatever category.

  23. Kris says:

    Tam & Chris: Stop being so mature.

  24. Eyre says:

    I don't care as much about losing Tumblr followers because I don't realy know or have conversatons with those people. I figure if they unfollow my Tumblr, they must not like kittens, rainbows, and boys who kiss boys. If a person doesn't likke those things, I don't want to be around that person anyway. It's the blogger and twitter unfollows and/or being that get to me when it's someone I've considered to be a friend.

  25. Kris says:

    Eyre: You're not going to escape me so easily. After all, I know where you live. 😉

  26. KB/KT Grant says:

    You're being mean to me *pout*

  27. nichem says:

    Well, I hope the ability to survive in this world isn't based on who has the most followers. If so I'm doomed because I've only got like 6 followers on twitter. If peole start unfollowing me, I'll be into negative numbers soon. 😛

  28. Kris says:

    Richelle: I find the more rude I am, the more twitter followers I seem to get, especially the bots who make up about 2/3s of the followers.

    The moral of this story? Stop pretending to be nice online and be as pervey as you are to me off it. 😛

  29. K. Z. Snow says:

    Everything on the Internet is a freakin' popularity contest. Blogs, review sites, discussion sites, author sites, online awards, Yahoo groups, blah-blah-blah.


    Most people are touchy, fickle, and/or easily swayed. Fact of life. It's irksome, but I'm resigned to it.

    (I love that LOL cat!)

  30. Juni says:

    Didn't think about followers until I read this! Now I'll be obsessed.

    Agree with your comment re anwsering when someone comments but it's often a while before I notice (100 lines of must try harder). Can I blame it on the time-zones?

  31. Juni says:

    That worked well – cut off mid-flow – story of my life!

  32. Ingrid says:

    “Can I blame it on the time-zones? ” Not to me Juni as you are only 1 hour behind me, hehe

  33. Juni says:

    Damn – got me! Ingrid – Kris always manages something pithy in reply to comments whilst I can only manage pathetic!

  34. Kris says:

    KZ: “Most people are touchy, fickle, and/or easily swayed.”

    Awww. You know me so well. 😛

    And, yep, that pic is full of teh win. I've been saving it for something special. 🙂

    Juni: “Didn't think about followers until I read this! Now I'll be obsessed.”

    And my work here is done. 😉

    Ingrid: “”Can I blame it on the time-zones? ” Not to me Juni as you are only 1 hour behind me, hehe”


    Juni got caught. Juni got caught.

  35. Hilcia says:

    high school was a long fucking time ago and you didn't give a shit what people thought of you then

    Oh, lol! My thoughts exactly…

  36. Kris says:

    Hilcia: Yeah. 🙂 It's crazy sometimes how much this social media world can feel make you feel like it's high school again. Lucky for me I was always a rebel. LOL.

  37. Kaetrin says:

    First: You can unfollow people?

    Second: I may have done this accidentally – I recall something weird happening on Facebook when I updated my privacy settings and almost everything disappeared, including some friends.

    Third: I appear to be a blog-following slut.

    Fourth: My blog has only 10 followers and I think I'd be crushed if I lost one. They are preciousssss!!

  38. Kris says:


    First: Yep.

    Second: Sure, it was a mistake. No, really. I believe you.

    Third: Erm. Good for you. Just be sure to use protection.

    Fourth: Followers are definitely precious. Unfollowers, though, can go suck rotten eggs.

  39. orannia says:

    I just followed you! I'm embarrassed I hadn't done it before 'cause you rock!

  40. Kris says:

    I knew I would get someone with a guilty conscience, Orannia. LOL. But, no worries, cos you do follow me. 😉

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