my thoughts

My mind is churning with thoughts about the latest controversy to hit the m/m community, and there are a few posts demanding to be written.

But I can’t right now.  

Not won’t, can’t.

On the morning of Tuesday 27 March 2012, my grandfather passed away suddenly. 

Mumma, the Baby Brother and I were negotiating a permanent bed for him in a nearby aged care facility when we got the call he was being taken to emergency.

Within 15 – 20 minutes, we received the news he was gone.

Although it was a blessing and what he wanted, it happened so very, very quickly.  I think we are all still reeling from shock.

These last few days I, with the help of the amazing BB, have been making arrangements and getting his affairs in order.  It has been so unbelievably hard; mentally, emotionally and physically.

It has also helped me gain some perspective about what we do with the lives we are given.

Granted, this is me and, let’s be honest, who knows how long it will last, but it certainly does make you stop and think.

There is also a certain irony as well as an absolute awesomeness about one of my best memories of Grandad being when he, my two baby cousins and one of their partners, and I were sitting around the Christmas table discussing marriage equality.

He was days away from turning 90, yet there he was, hearing us out and coming to the understanding the issue was about choice.  Some of you may be thinking “well, he was 90 and was bound to have ‘old-fashioned’ views”.  You would be wrong, though, because what he was arguing was we had no right to force our heterosexual marriage beliefs on gay couples.  

Oh, yeah. 🙂

Goodbye Grandad.  You will be missed.

You grumpy old bastard.

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34 Responses to my thoughts

  1. Tam says:

    I'm so sorry. He sounds like a wonderful man, even if a bit grumpy. 😉 Despite it being nice he didn't linger and suffer, it is shocking when it happens so fast. I'm glad you have help to get things organized during such a chaotic time.

    Hugs from us. Know we're thinking about you all.

  2. ((hugs))
    I grieve with thee.

  3. Chris says:

    *HUGS* All of you are in my thoughts.

  4. K. Z. Snow says:

    So sorry, sweetie. Sounds like he was a very cool dude.

  5. nichem says:

    So sorry. (((Hugs)))

  6. Kassandra says:

    *HUGS* Always hard to say goodbye even when we know it may be for the best. Hang in there.

  7. Lori says:

    I'm so sorry, Kris. Though it's a special person who will still listen to others' thoughts and opinions at 90. Even if they're a total curmudgeon. Sounds lije you have good memories to enjoy.

  8. Lori Toland says:

    My thoughts are with you. *hugs*

  9. Eyre says:

    Hon, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather. He sounds like someone I would have liked. I'll be keep you and your family in my prayers. *hugs*

  10. Anonymous says:

    ~hugs~ so sorry to hear about your loss. He sounds like an awesome man to have known.


  11. Anonymous says:

    *hugs* Kris. So sorry to hear about your loss. He sounds amazing. Love his pic.

    Take care,

  12. Sean Kennedy says:

    Don't know what happened there! Beautiful photo, matey. Keep on keeping on.

  13. nic b says:

    The first comment I did on my phone was eaten by the Internet.

    I'm so sorry. Lots of love and kisses to you and your family. Xx

  14. Ingrid says:

    I am sorry for your loss Kris ((hugs))

    Take care coming weeks

  15. Jenre says:

    Sorry to hear about your granddad. He looks to have had a good life though and died in the way he wanted. What more could you ask for eh?

    Hugs to you and your family during this time.

  16. Anne Brooke says:

    So sorry to hear about your grandfather – thinking of you and the family loads …


  17. Natasha says:

    My condolences to you and your family.

    I've lost all my grandparents , two passed before I was born but I adored my maternal grandfather. He was a wonderful, brave man.
    My dads mum passed 15 years ago, she was the reason we ended up in Perth and not the UK when my parents divorced.
    I am watching my parents get older and it's so hard to realise that they are human.

    Take care of yourself amd when the hurt of his passing lessens, I hope you'll be able to tell me more about him. He sounds like the kind of bloke I'd have liked to meet.


  18. I am so, so sorry for your loss. *hugs* I'm here if you need me.

  19. Emilie says:

    I'm sorry for your loss. *Hugs* I'll be thinking of you and your family.

  20. So sorry for your loss Kris. (hugs)

  21. Eva says:

    I'm sorry for your loss Kris.
    Sending positive thoughts and virtual hugs your way.

  22. Mara says:

    He sounds like he was a sweetheart. That must be where you get it.
    ~hugs for you and your family~

  23. Mariana says:

    Sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace and live lovingly in your heart 🙂

  24. orannia says:

    Oh sweetheart I'm so sorry. My grandfather is still, to this day, the most amazing man I have ever known. And although he's been gone 5 years now it feels like yesterday. Your grandfather sounds like another amazing man. I'm thinking of you all. *hugs*

  25. Kris says:

    You all saw that grumpy old bastard thing, right?

    In all seriousness, though, I feel overwhelmed by how many of you took the time to send my family and I your thoughts and sympathies.

    We are so very grateful for your support at this time.

    Thank you.

  26. Kaetrin says:

    So sorry for your loss Kris. I've been a bit absent from the interweb-verse lately and only just read your post. It's always hard to lose a loved one. Hugs to you and yours.

  27. Kris says:

    Thanks, Kaetrin luv. We really appreciate it.

  28. Tracy says:

    Honey I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa. He sounds like he was a lovely, open-minded man. My thoughts are with you sweets.

  29. *squeezes you tight*

  30. Anonymous says:

    Throwing my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. The loss of a grandparent is so difficult. *throws internet hugs across the pond*

  31. Kris says:

    I was privileged to know all for of my grandparents and the passing of Grandad also represented the loss of such an important era of my life. There's a certain bitter sweetness about it.

    Thank you for your thoughts.

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