About a month ago, I did a very insightful post about the cumfeast that appears to be dominating sex scenes in m/m erotica and romance at the moment.
I was later contacted by an anonymous someone, who wanted to see what I thought about ‘savouring the flavour of one’s own fluids’ (‘u’s added for translation purposes).
“What?” Sayeth I. “You mean the post-bj-I-can-taste-myself-in-your-mouth-and-it-makes-me-horny scene?”
Sound familiar?
This is me: Reading, reading, reading… hang on… omg… OMG… it’s coming, IT’S COMING… SNAP!… it’s the post-bj kiss…*rolls eyes*
Seriously, if you haven’t read at least one book with a scene like that in it lately then you must be living on another friggin’ planet.
But what do you really think about it? Does it freak you out like it does my anonymous someone or are you all for savouring your own juices? Enquiring minds and all that.
Kris + Books = Good. *Sometimes*. 
Kris, where do you GET these great images??? Outstanding!
As for the question, …. ewwwww.
You're definitely right that the post-bj kiss is becoming THE hot new m/m cliche. And then there's that thing I've read described as snowballing where they kiss and transfer the … um, fluid from mouth to mouth. I have to admit that I almost lost my lunch when I first read this! Yes, it doesn't take much for sex scenes to get too outré for me, I'm afraid.
That is an amazing picture.
The post BJ kiss doesn't bother me. Hey, if you expect me to swallow it you can kiss me after. I survived the taste, you will too. LOL Now getting turned on by the taste? Meh. It's not chocolate honey, it's cum. Doesn't freak me out though, it's just one more wacky little quirk.
Snowballing doesn't do it for me because let's be honest, it doesn't taste that great and I would want to just get rid of the taste, but again, whatever floats your boat.
ROFL! Great pic for this post.
I roll my eyes too when I read the 'cum flavored kiss' scene.
Not my thing at all. Maybe cause I'm not a gay man.
I'm with Tam in that it doesn't really bother me. When I first read it I was vaguely troubled but then, like all m/m sex stuff, I just got used to it. Hey, if they get off on it, why not? After all it happens in m/f erotica too, where the woman can taste herself after the guy's gone down on her and then kisses her.
Snowballing is gross.
Felching following by snowballing make me want to wash my mouth out with bleach.
Blerg O.o
Not bothered. Kissing happens. Evidently there are guys who like that flavo(u)r, and there are guys who get off on the idea of it so get caught up in the moment. I think it works in the reading of it.
So the snowballing sort of fits in with that. The felching, though? Kind of yuk.
Snowballing doesn't bother me, though I'm with Tam that cum doesn't taste that great, so why would you want to. Felching OTOH . . . umm, no, as in big NO.
BTW, have you been following the Gayology 101 threads in the m/m forum on Good Reads? There was a thread on taste where people were asking about licking/ swallowing/ tasting cum. The guys participating in the threads have been really open in their responses and good sports about the whole thing– it's been quite educational. (Oh and also FUN because GR is fun!)
Also, BTW, your post got me thinking about the spam emails we get all the time about products that will “increase your cum shot”. Is that really something desirable? Personally, I've never found myself wishing that my hubby would make more cum.
I dunno, maybe if you were in the porn industry or something, but otherwise?
I am also another one that's not fussed – it is as it is…
And as you said it is so common place in almost every m/m and m/f and m/f/m books..
The plus is I always have the option of jumping over the scenes… and to ber honest if you have read one cum dripped kiss you have read them all…
Love the pic…
E.H>
What once was freaky, like 2 years ago, is now normal. Just saying
Can you all believe that this was one of the first images that came up when I did a search. The google fu was strong with me that day. LOL.
Val: You're such a prude. 😉 You read the post-bj kiss a lot now, don't you, especially in the first sex scene. After rimming, snowballing doesn't really bother me. Having said that, wouldn't it be hilarious to read a scene where one of the characters pulls back from a kiss with an 'ewwww'.
Tam: “Hey, if you expect me to swallow it you can kiss me after. I survived the taste, you will too.”
LOL. I love you, Tam. 🙂
Lily: “I roll my eyes too when I read the 'cum flavored kiss' scene.”
Yep. You can see it cumming (ba boom) a mile off can't you.
Jenre: True about it happening in m/f erotica. You gotta love all those scenes with faces covered in slippery juices, don't you.
“Felching following by snowballing make me want to wash my mouth out with bleach.”
Ok. Blech. Entirely too much for me this early in the morning.
Katiebabs chook: Not for you then I take it, KBC. 🙂
Wren: I agree that sometimes it can read as seriously hot other times it feels like the author put it in because it's expected. I read a book the other day – can't remember what it was – where I swear to God every sex scene was the same. Pissed me right off.
I can taste the combination of salt, Elmer's Glue and cottage hheese as we speak.
Kris: Can I ask (Well, I guess I am asking) what exactly you searched for when you got that interesting picture to come up right away.
No pun intended. Really.
Richelle: *rolls eyes* We all joined up to goodreads. You can stop with the pimping already.
I have been following that thread – when I remember – in the updates. I think the girls there are seriously lucky to have boys so open and willing to discuss gay cos some of the questions… oy!
“Also, BTW, your post got me thinking about the spam emails we get all the time about products that will “increase your cum shot”. Is that really something desirable?”
Maybe boys have secret 'who can cum the furtherest' contests. *shrugs*
EH: “The plus is I always have the option of jumping over the scenes… and to ber honest if you have read one cum dripped kiss you have read them all…”
Sometimes it does feel like that, doesn't it. Honestly, I've been skipping quite a few sex scenes lately. They've been boring the shit out of me, both m/m and m/f.
Ingrid: True. It takes a lot to shock now. LOL.
Katiebabs chooks: Eww. Say nothing more. I don't want to know.
Wren: I think it was something like 'gay', 'taste' and 'cum'. Needless to say that I have a lot of fun searching for images for my posts. *g*
Like Wren, not bothered by the basic kiss after. Snowballing, etc? Heading into squickier territory.
I was thinking as I walked to my car (yes, I think about your posts while leaving work) and I think it's not the taste per se that is the turn on, it's that the other person cares about you enough (or is slutty enough as the case may be) to let you come in their mouth. So the taste is evidence of that intimate act which is the turn-on.
And I suppose snowballing COULD be about the taste. After all, people actually claim to LIKE vegemite and eat it even without a gun pointed to their head. So anything is possible. 😛
Chris: To boldy squick where no one has squicked before!
Tam: I take it back. I don't love you.
Having said that, I think you're right about the intimacy being the turn on. And isn't that the bottom line that we've come to in a lot of these discussions. 🙂
I don't have a problem with it. Then again, I'm the one who licks my lover's face after cunnilingus.
In general, I don't go for the snowballing. But after sex, the characters are going to touch and kiss a little, then crash. I've written characters who wouldn't kiss their lovers after oral sex. I've written characters who were greedy for their own flavor. I figure as long as you keep it in character and avoid cliche, it's all good.
Wow…I learn so much on this here blog and I gotta say…99% of it I wish I'd never learned. lol
Yeah, the post-coital kiss thing kinda grosses me out even reading f/m, especially if she was quite…juicy when he's going down on her. lol
I'm such a prude. *snicker*
Hahahaa….omg…*dies*
I love you! LOL
The post-bj kiss is gross, but even worse is the “licking my own cum out of your navel” phenomenon. EWW.
Also, this anonymous friend of yours must be totally awesome. I already like her.
Or him.
“Val: You're such a prude. ;)”
I know, ha, ha! It's very sad. And for some reason, rimming doesn't bother me that much, but snowballing is too gross for words. And felching? OMG, ick, ick, ick!
Angelia: “I figure as long as you keep it in character and avoid cliche, it's all good.”
I'm in total agreement. I really like it when authors play around with personality traits etc that challenge stereotypes, but are still convincing with regard to that particular character. Makes for interesting reading. 🙂
Bridget The Prude 😉 “Wow…I learn so much on this here blog and I gotta say…99% of it I wish I'd never learned. lol”
I get that a lot. *hehehe*
To be honest the only real thing that squicks me out when it comes to m/f is when the guy might have facial hair and his beard gets… I'm sure you know where I'm going with this one. Nuff said.
JenB: “Also, this anonymous friend of yours must be totally awesome. I already like her.
Or him. O_o”
*snort* And you'd better love me. 🙂
“even worse is the “licking my own cum out of your navel” phenomenon. EWW.”
Everyone knows that this only happens when the boys run out of wash cloths by their bed. Sheesh. 😉
Val: Hmm. I'm sensing a certain level of ickyness… LOL.